2-21-2021 Order of Service

Beloved Community as an Antidote to Shame

Bellingham Unitarian Fellowship

February 21, 2021, 10:30 am

Online at https://zoom.us/j/738363620
Passcode: BUF

By phone, for audio only: (346) 248-7799
Meeting ID: 738 363 620
Passcode: 306220

Giving Options:

Please mail donations, payable to “BUF” to 1207 Ellsworth, Bellingham WA, 98225

Or donate online at buf.org

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There are times for calling in and times for calling out.
Here is and excellent resource with examples of when to call-in/out
and effective words to use in each case:




Gathering Music             Melanie Rieck, All I Ask of You

Welcome                        Sky Hedman

Chalice Lighting


Singing Together          #347 Gather the Spirit Kevin Allen-Schmid


Meditation/Responsive Reading – Rev Paul Beckel

“The Legacy of Caring” by Thandeka


Recognition                    Thank you to Ginny Baker, Pastoral Care Team Chair

Singing Together          #1012 When I am Frightened

Anti-Racism                    Lisa Heezen




Offertory                          Lovely Rita by Beatles arr. David Lanz

Singing Together           #95 There is More Love Barbara and Jaco ten Hove


Circle ‘Round

Postlude                          Spinning Song by A. Ellmenreich


Behind the scenes: Kai Rappaport, Jeff Copeland, Rod Haynes

Coffee Hour: Stay on Zoom AFTER the service. We’ll break into small randomized groups for about 10 minutes, then the groups will be juggled for another 10 minute period. Stay as long as you like to meet newcomers, and people that you might not otherwise have met … check-in on one another’s well-being … and reflect on the theme of today’s service.

Our BUF Covenant

Love is the spirit of this fellowship, and service gives it life.
Celebrating our diversity, and joined by a quest for truth,
we work for peace, and honor all creation. This is our covenant.


Gather the Spirit

Gather the spirit, harvest the power.
Our sep’rate fires will kindle one flame.
Witness the mystery of this hour.
Our trials in this light appear all the same.

Gather in peace, gather in thanks.
Gather in sympathy now and then.
Gather in hope, compassion and strength.
Gather to celebrate once again.

Gather the spirit of heart and mind.
Seeds for the sowing are laid in store.
Nurtured in love, and conscience refined,
with body and spirit united once more.


Gather the spirit growing in all,
drawn by the moon and fed by the sun.
Winter to spring, and summer to fall,
the chorus of life resounding as one.



The Legacy of Caring

Despair is my private pain
Born from what I have failed to say
failed to do
failed to overcome.
Be still my inner self
let me rise to you
let me reach down into your pain
and soothe you.
I turn to you
to renew my life
I turn to the world
the streets of the city
the worn tapestries of
brokerage firms
drug dealers
private estates
personal things in the bag lady’s cart
rage and pain in the faces that turn from me
afraid of their own inner worlds.
This common world I love anew
as the life blood of generations
who refused to surrender their humanity
in an inhumane world
courses through my veins.
From within this world
my despair is transformed to hope
and I begin anew
the legacy of caring.


When I am Frightened

When I am frightened, will you reassure me?
When I’m uncertain, will you hold my hand?
Will you be strong for me, sing to me quietly?
Will you share some of your stories with me?
If you will show me compassion,
then I may learn to care as you do,
then I may learn to care.

When I am angry, will you still embrace me?
When I am thoughtless, will you understand?
Will you believe in me, stand by me willingly?
Will you share some of your questions with me?
If you will show me acceptance,
then I may learn to give as you do,
then I may learn to give.

When I am troubled, will you listen to me?
When I am lonely, will you be my friend?
Will you be there for me, comfort me tenderly?
Will you share some of your feelings with me?
If you will show me commitment,
then I may learn to love as you do,
then I may learn to love.


There is More Love Somewhere

There is more love somewhere.
There is more love somewhere.
I’m gonna keep on ‘til I find it.
There is more love somewhere.

There is more hope somewhere…

There is more peace somewhere..

There is more joy somewhere…



Upcoming Services:

Sunday February 28             We get to Love

Despite our differences, we get to love each. Despite the obstacles and misunderstandings, we get to love. Despite the isolation, fear, and uncertainty, we get to love. And we get to continue, throughout our lives, to expand the circle, practice letting go of ego, and continue becoming the beloved community that we wish to see in the world.


Sunday March 7                    The UU Journey to—and from—Selma

Revs Barbara Wells ten Hove & Paul Beckel — On the 56th anniversary of the march from Selma to Montgomery, retired UU minister and BUF member Barbara Wells ten Hove will reflect on the legacy of the march and its impact on our faith.


Sunday Zoom Link: Meeting ID 738 363 620
Passcode is BUF


Pastoral Care note from Paul: I’m sad to share the news that Ross Luxon died this week. Ross has been a part of the BUF community for several years. He always had a smile and a wry comment to share to lighten up the day. Ross’s family will be meeting for a private memorial service.


Taize service on Monday, March 1 at 7:00 pm. Rev. Tessie Mandeville with pianist Andrea Rackl

Zoom link: https://zoom.us/j/753181200
Meeting passcode: BUF
Or dial: (669) 900-6833 (Meeting ID: 753 181 200)


BUF Black Lives Matter Business/Planning Meetings – Monday, March 1 from 6-7 pm. Contact Cat McIntyre for zoom link. BUF Black Lives Matter Program Meeting – Monday, March 8 from 7-8:30 pm. A dialogue on reparations on H.R. 40 with Seattle group, GRACE (Grandmothers for Race and Class Equality). Contact Cat McIntyre for zoom link.


The Special Collection recipient for February is Lydia Place. The collection was held on February 14th when we learned more about their mission to break the cycle of homelessness and promote independence for current and future generations. Its Transitional Housing Program

consists of the Gladstone House which is the home for women and children who have nowhere else to go. The facility was started in 1989 by a group of women of the Church Women United.  These “founding mothers” of Lydia Place included two women from BUF. Support from BUF has been a strong force for this program. Donations can be made all month long, through our website donation or direct to the office.


Widening the Circle Study Group Join a Study Group to assess our Fellowship’s progress towards building a diverse, multicultural Beloved Community. Guided by The Report of the UUA Commission on Institutional Change of 2020, our Widening the Circle study group will meet Sunday mornings from 9:00 to 10:15 starting March 7 and continue through May. This is a structured self-examination about who we are now, and the actions and changes we need to make in order to accountably dismantle racism and other oppressions in ourselves and at BUF. Our inquiry will be led by Genia Allen-Schmid, and Reverends Mel Hoover, Rose Edington and Paul Beckel. You can download the free Report and Study Guide we will use to learn more about it here: https://www.uua.org/uuagovernance/committees/cic/widening
If you wish to join, or have further questions, please contact Genia at genia@buf.org.


2021-2022 SEJC Collections – Call for Applicants! The BUF Social and Environmental Justice Committee (SEJC) welcomes BUF Members and Friends to invite organizations to apply. Please be sure such organizations meet SEJC’s areas of justice focus: women and children, environment, poverty/homelessness, peace and human rights, social and economic justice, and health. Find the short (approx. one page) application (due by April 1st) at buf.org, click on Justice, then click on the side menu link to “SEJC collection application.” Each applicant will also be interviewed by May 24th. Questions? Contact Kara Black.


BUF and WWU Social Justice Scholarships A group of BUFsters is forming to work on projects to help provide students with opportunities to do social justice work through WWU scholarships, grants and endowments in alignment with our Beloved Community Covenant. Some of these ideas include: scholarships for black students seeking a teaching career; participating in WWU’s Morse Leadership Institute and contributing to students in WWU’s Woodring School of Education and Social Justice. If you’re interested contact Barbara Gilday to receive a zoom link to meetings.


Snowballs, Meatballs and Bubbles: BUF’s Valentine’s Love Fest became a Snow Party! Kudos to those who braved the streets and the weather last Saturday to sing love songs, throw snowballs, buy chocolate and get bubbled.  Fair Trade items, including coffees, tea, chocolate are still available by contacting Susan Thurn.


And we invite you to make a family chalice. Pick up your clay and instructions at BUF! We have lots of high-quality modeling clay left for folks to make their own chalices to use at home during the pandemic. We invite you to light your chalice on Sunday mornings until we can meet again in person. The first Sunday our building is open again, we will have a special chalice lighting ceremony. We will ask everyone to bring their chalice with them to church that morning and will light them together in our sanctuary in celebration of our resilient BUF community. To pick up, contact admin@buf.org or genia@buf.org.


Rev. Tessie Mandeville and Andrew Schoneberg are co-producing a new podcast called Spirit Matters. The vision is that this how will encompass all manner of spirit and spirituality, casting a broad and deep net in the complex, multi-cultural, multi-dimensional, pluralistic world in which we live.  Sometimes you’ll hear Tessie in a solo podcast and at other times you will hear Tessie interview guests—some of whom you may recognize from our BUF community. You are invited to listen in whenever you want at Bellingham’s local radio station KMRE 102.3 where you will find the podcast on demand at
http://kmre.org/podcasts/spirit-matters. Let us know what you think: Tessie@buf.org.